NOT built to pole

cheffycakes started this discussion · 1/24/2014

I would like to just say that I am not built to pole. I am weak and unflexy. I take months and months to master simple things that first timers surpass me on ( I'm still trying to perfect my fireman after 6 months). I'm a difficult student because I know I'm horribly slow with muscle memory. But I'm proud to say that I. Love. Pole. I'm pathetically slow with progression, but you can't beat my determination. The amount of work I have to put into the simplest moves makes it that much more rewarding. I'm trying the positive outlook on things here. Can't hurt, right?? :)

48 replies

Lee lee · 1/24/2014
But that doesn't make you a difficult student, it probably makes you are great one. You know what you need to work on and you're determined to get to it!
JenLFG · 1/24/2014
yes you are! anyone can pole :D everyone learns pole at a different pace so you can't compare your progress to anyone else's. stick with it & go at your own pace.
Polebull · 1/24/2014
We all come to pole from different places. You don't have to BE anything to love pole, and you love pole! So that means you ARE built to pole :)
Ava Madison · 1/24/2014
You love it and that makes you a poler! We all have strengths and weaknesses; embrace them and pole on :)
polebravely · 1/24/2014
I really feel the same way. I am very weak and am still just focusing on pole holds, knee tucks, climbing, anything to help me get stronger and I get so frustrated because I wonder if I will ever be able to do anything. But, it makes me happy and I know I'm doing something to change myself in a positive way. I just wish my family and boyfriend were a bit more supportive.
BonnieAndClyde · 1/24/2014
As long as you have the love for pole, the pole will love you back! You seem to be a determined woman. The most important thing is to have the desire, which you do so dont judge yourself by other peoples pace and progress. Move at your own pace and the strength will come without you even realizing it. Pole Bull said it beautifully.
korinne · 1/24/2014
Ha. I feel you're pain. I'm the most awkwardly shaped human for pole (my arms are too short, my torso is super long, my boobs, butt, and thighs get in the way... Chemmie can attest to it!) Before pole I could barely touch my toes. It takes me 6 months at least to learn a new move. All of these things makes me appreciate it even more. The fact that I finally got my middle splits after almost a decade of working on it was almost as proud of a moment as getting into medical school! It took me 2 years to get superwoman, but when I finally got it I was ecstatic. Additionally, if you ever want to teach, you will be amazing at it! You will know every way to fail at a move and how to correct it! :) While it's fun teaching people who are naturally awesome, it's way more rewarding and enjoyable to teach a struggling student who works hard and finally gets a new move!
korinne · 1/24/2014
OMG I can't edit. I can't believe i just typed "you're" instead of "your." This is going to bother me for the rest of the night.
chemgoddess1 · 1/25/2014
They may get in the way, but your boobs and butt are FANTASTIC.
Invertedmonkey · 1/25/2014
don't compare yourself to everyone else. Your pole story is your own and has nothing to do with how fast someone else nails certain moves. We all learn differently and that's all it makes us; different. not any better or any worse. Korinne, I feel your pain. My boobs get in the way as well, I keep wishing they'll shrink with more pole.
Charley · 1/25/2014
You are not a difficult student. Trust me. I'm the same way, it takes me months to do what most people do much quicker. It's okay though because the harder you work to get it, the more you enjoy it. If it all came easy it wouldn't be as much fun...or that's what I tell myself ;) Enjoy the journey. There are so many varying aspects to pole that you can spend a lifetime discovering it all.
korinne · 1/25/2014
Charley- It hurts my feelings that you don't want to be my friend.
Charley · 1/25/2014
Hahaha Kori, I just noticed. I'm on my iPad so I don't notice. We're friends now! :D. I hope to see you in April!
Sieira · 1/26/2014
I'm about to be 42 and I just started about 4 months ago. I feel ur pain...I just keep going and trying. I have just found out too thanks to this site that I have a tad of scoliosis in my lower back which I never knew before. It's more work but I'm not giving up. I too have a hard time getting support from my husband. I got a pole.a week ago and I'm waiting for him to put it up. And I want a mirror put up also...wer in a condo and our room is the on,y place we can put the pole up. He said he dosnt want our room to look like a porno studio. But I seriously don't care what he says lol il get it all up myself ha! Keep on goin ladies!
Sieira · 1/26/2014
Oh and I'm totally not flexible.never have been...yet :)
RedFox · 1/27/2014
I don't know if this helps, but I get incredibly frustrated. I make gains, them life gets in the way and I lose them. That had been the last yay and a half and it can get a person down when they see everyone around them advancing. My response, since I love pole on several levels, is to think of pole as a process rather than moves etc...as the goal. There are goals, but you attain them through the process. As for strength...are you choosing a dirty which helps grow muscles? I find that it isn't how much protein I consume necessarily, it's when. I have protein right after I rain, and then try to keep a little bit consistent in my food throughout the day. Hour that helps!
RedFox · 1/27/2014
Sorry, typos! a "diet" that helps grow muscles! Now I can't remember the rest of them...
s3r3nkk3 · 1/27/2014
Dear Cheffycakes, I am almost 41 and started poling 4 months ago out of curiosity and a strong desire to go beyond my (many) limits and (endless) fears... Never done any gymastics, dance, anything phyical in my life, not even running. Well: I am not flexible and not strong (yet), but I am definitely the most determined in my class because of this and I am finding this determination always pays me back. I make small and slow progress, but I can see it's there and it makes me feel like nothing is impossible. For example, I had never been able to do forearm stands (ever in my life, I was too scared to even try when I was in my teens) and now after a million tries at home and in class I can (against the wall or the pole)! The feeling of accomplishment is so great that you will be enocouraged to keep on trying and trying until you succeed. We too are built to pole :o) PS: Veena's lessons are helping me a lot
grayeyes · 1/27/2014
@sieira My husband was not that keen on my pole going in the bedroom either but that is really the only place for it. I specifically bought a Lil Mynx because it goes up and down in seconds and he said he didn't want it to be up all the time, and I didn't think I would want it up all the time either. However, I've had it probably four or five months now and have only taken it down maybe three times. It turns out that I LOVE it up because I think it's beautiful, and it doesn't bother him at all either even though it's pretty much right in the middle of the walkway. I also keep asking for more mirrors, which he initially was against also. He said it's not about looking like a porn set (which I understand), but more that he would like the bedroom to be decorated nicely. He recently told me to go ahead and get more mirrors and his reasoning is that he sees how much poling means to me and how much I enjoy it and he doesn't want to be in the way of that. My husband doesn't really have a hobby that he's passionate about like I am with pole, but he recognizes what it means to me. Maybe you'll have a similar experience if you can get him to help you put it up. :-) Good luck.
AnnVann · 1/27/2014
@cheffy You mention that you are not strong or flex... My question is how much stronger or flexier would you be if you did NOT pole, lol! Anything you do is "money in the bank". You are improving your body little by little, even if you are not that aware of it. Keep on polin'! :D
dancingqueans · 1/27/2014
my opinion is to ad yoga! it has helped me in so many ways. even if once a week.
s3r3nkk3 · 1/28/2014
like dancingqueans says, yoga helps a lot; I have also started to take yoga classes once a week and it makes me feel very good. Generally speaking, whatever you do for your body has a great influence on how you feel inside, be it for the self-esteem or the adrenalin, I don't know really but pole dancing is doing a lot for me on so many levels. And I think a chrome pole in the middle of my bedroom looks beautiful, even my 74-year old mum agrees :o)
xylina · 1/29/2014
I have times where I just want to give up I have been polling for about a year and I am still practicing my fire man I suck bad but I just keep going
IrishOrla · 1/29/2014
Xylina don't give up! It took me two years to get my air invert and the other girls in my class had it first go. Everyone is different that y I don't focus on other people and what they can do. I just focus on me and what I can do. And 2 years later I am starting to become a dancer, which I never thought would happen!!
Sieira · 1/29/2014
I just got my pole up last night and was in there on it for about 2 hours lol practicing inverts ect...and stretching. It's not just about being able to do moves on the pole it's the feeling of accomplishment when you get it knowing that you didn't give up :) and it's the ONLY THING that can take me out of myself and get my mind off off of stress.

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